The Bloomin' Blog
For those of you who stood with me during the years I promoted Goodness Grows, thank you! I appreciate all the time many of you spent trying to understand my brand offering and how to pass on that information to your friends.
We all agreed, Goodness does Grow! It’s more than just one good act leading to another. It’s the way workplace cultures are transformed and communication barriers overcome. It’s the way our spirits are reclaimed just when we think we can’t take one more day of dark and heavy living.
Goodness, after all, is a euphemism for love. And love is all about being uncomfortable on behalf of another. I know…you don’t find that on many greeting card messages, but it’s true. The greeting cards reflect the emotions that sometimes occur after we risk that great stretch beyond our own security and our own egos to do something on behalf of another. And I like talking about how that can make individuals, workplaces, families and communities a much better place. But it was one very muddled marketing message.
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Well of course you are!
But do you welcome the opportunities as they arise?
Having our minds stretched makes a bit room for more information, but that doesn’t often happen for many of us because stretching hurts. Here are some simple steps to make the most of each learning opportunity.
Remember that Significant Learning Opportunities, as Jim Fay calls them, are often wrapped up in times we’d rather avoid…accidents, failures, broken relationships…but if we allow those times to be something we simply survive, we never harvest the lesson and allow ourselves to grow from them.
Look for some of the most significant opportunities to come from people who irritate you. The thing that irritates you in them is likely a strong trait you carry as well (we’ll get into all the egoesque theory in that another day…feel free to use egoesque…I kind of like it). Turn off your filter and listen to understand.
In a horrible moment, don’t say something chirpy like, “Boy, oh boy are we going to look back and laugh at what we learned today!” People… Click here for the rest of the post
It’s Family Friday. Today, I’m thinking about an important communication skill for creating positive culture at work and at home. In both places, it’s not our ability to outline a vision or articulate expected behaviors that counts as much of our skill in keeping everyone motivated and on track to fulfill that mission.
How do you have those difficult conversations? How do you guide without micromanagement? How do you get rid of the bathwater and keep the baby safe? (Sorry, but that metaphor always generates images of wet, airborne infants that are somewhat disturbing!) I’ve talked before about the dangers of over correction, but what happens when corrective measures have to be taken?
Here are some simple strategies. See what you think.
First, identify and consistently communicate the criteria for behavior. It pains me to overhear parents walking into a big event with a child saying, “remember what we talked about…” or a supervisor to an employee saying, “I know you won’t let me down on this, Jane,” as he or she receives a huge assignment.
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